A simple life has a different meaning and a different value for every person. To some like us @5021, it means eliminating all but the essential, eschewing chaos for peace, and spending your time doing what’s important to you.
It means getting rid of many of the things you do so you can spend time with people you love and do the things you love. It means getting rid of the clutter so you are left with only that which gives you value.
However, getting to simplicity isn’t always a simple process. It’s a journey, not a destination, and it can often be a journey of two steps forward, and one backward, Of course, that’s not terribly useful unless you can see how to apply that to different areas of your life, so we’re like;
Make a list of your top 4-5 important things. What’s most important to you? What do you value most? What 4-5 things do you most want to do in your life? Simplifying starts with these priorities, as you are trying to make room in your life so you have more time for these things.
Evaluate your commitments. Look at everything you’ve got going on in your life. Everything, from work to home to civic to kids’ activities to hobbies to side businesses to other projects. Think about which of these really gives you value, which ones you love doing. Which of these are in line with the 4-5 most important things you listed above? Drop those that aren’t in line with those things.
Evaluate your time. How do you spend your day? What things do you do, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep? Make a list, and evaluate whether they’re in line with your priorities. If not, eliminate the things that aren’t, and focus on what’s important. Redesign your day.
Simplify work tasks. Our work day is made up of an endless list of work tasks. If you simply try to knock off all the tasks on your to-do list, you’ll never get everything done, and worse yet, you’ll never get the important stuff done. Focus on the essential tasks and eliminate the rest.
Simplify home tasks. In that vein, think about all the stuff you do at home. Sometimes our home task list is just as long as our work list. And we’ll never get that done either. So focus on the most important, and try to find ways to eliminate the other tasks (automate, eliminate, delegate, or hire help).
Limit your communications. Our lives these days are filled with a vast flow of communications: email, IM, cell phones, paper mail, Skype, Twitter, forums, and more. It can take up your whole day if you let it. Instead, put a limit on your communications: only do email at certain times of the day, for a certain number of minutes (I recommend twice a day, but do what works for you). Only do IM once a day, for a limited amount of time. Limit phone calls to certain times too. Same with any other communications. Set a schedule and stick to it.
Limit your media consumption. This tip won’t be for everyone, so if media consumption is important to you, please skip it (as with any of the other tips). However, I believe that the media in our lives — TV, radio, Internet, magazines, etc. — can come to dominate our lives. Don’t let it. Simplify your life and your information consumption by limiting it. Try a media fast.
Purge your stuff. If you can devote a weekend to purging the stuff you don’t want, it feels seriously terrific. Get boxes and trash bags for the stuff you want to donate or toss. Here’s my guide on decluttering.
Get rid of the big items. There’s tons of little clutter in our lives, but if you start with the big items, you’ll simplify your life quickly and in a big way.
Edit your rooms. One room at a time, go around the room and eliminate the unnecessary. Act as a newspaper editor, trying to leave only the minimum, and deleting everything else.
Edit closets and drawers. Once you’ve gone through the main parts of your rooms, tackle the closets and drawers, one drawer or shelf at a time.
Simplify your wardrobe. Is your closet bursting full? Are your drawers so stuffed they can’t close (I’m talking about dresser drawers here, not underwear). Simplify your wardrobe by getting rid of anything you don’t actually wear. Try creating a minimal wardrobe by focusing on simple styles and a few solid colors that all match each other. Read more.
Simplify your computing life. If you have trouble with too many files and too much disorganization, consider online computing. It can simplify things greatly.
Declutter your digital packrattery. If you are a digital packrat, and cannot seem to control your digital clutter, there is still hope for you. Read this guide to curing yourself of this clutter.
Create a simplicity statement. What do you want your simple life to look like? Write it out. More here.
Limit your buying habits. If you are a slave to materialism and consumerism, there are ways to escape it. I was there, and although I haven’t escaped these things entirely, I feel much freer of it all. If you can escape materialism, you can get into the habit of buying less. And that will mean less stuff, less spending, less freneticism.
Free up time. Find ways to free up time for the important stuff. That means eliminating the stuff you don’t like, cutting back on time wasters, and making room for what you want to do.
Do what you love. Once you’ve freed up some time, be sure to spend that extra time doing things you love. Go back to your list of 4-5 important things. Do those, and nothing else.
Spend time with people you love. Again, the list of 4-5 important things probably contains some of the people you love (if not, you may want to re-evaluate). Whether those people are a spouse, a partner, children, parents, other family, best friends, or whoever, find time to do things with them, talk to them, be intimate with them (not necessarily in sexual ways).
Spend time alone. See this list of ways to free up time for yourself — to spend in solitude. Alone time is good for you, although some people aren’t comfortable with it. It could take practice getting used to the quiet, and making room for your inner voice. It sounds new-agey, I know, but it’s extremely calming. And this quiet is necessary for finding out what’s important to you.
Eat slowly. If you cram your food down your throat, you are not only missing out on the great taste of the food, you are not eating healthy. Slow down to lose weight, improve digestion, and enjoy life more. Read more.
Drive slowly. Most people rush through traffic, honking and getting angry and frustrated and stressed out. And endangering themselves and others in the meantime. Driving slower is not only safer, but it is better on your fuel bill, and can be incredibly peaceful. Give it a try.
Be present. These two words can make a huge difference in simplifying your life. Living here and now, in the moment, keeps you aware of life, of what is going on around you and within you. It does wonders for your sanity. Read tips on how to do it.
Streamline your life. Many times we live with unplanned, complex systems in our lives because we haven’t given them much thought. Instead, focus on one system at a time (your laundry system, your errands system, your paperwork system, your email system, etc.) and try to make it simplified, efficient, and written. Then stick to it.
Create a simple mail & paperwork system. If you don’t have a system, this stuff will pile up. But a simple system will keep everything in order.
Create a simple system for house work. Another example of a simple system is clean-as-you-go with a burst.
Clear your desk. If you have a cluttered desk, it can be distracting and disorganized and stressful. A clear desk, however, is only a couple of simple habits away. Read more.
Keep your email inbox empty. Is your email inbox overflowing with new and read messages? Do the messages just keep piling up? If so, you’re normal — but you could be more efficient and your email life could be simplified with a few simple steps.
Learn to live frugally. Living frugally means buying less, wanting less, and leaving less of a footprint on the earth. It’s directly related to simplicity. Here are 50 tips on how to live frugally.
Make your house minimalist. A minimalist house has what is necessary, and not much else. It’s also extremely peaceful (not to mention easy to clean).
Consider a smaller home. If you rid your home of stuff, you might find you don’t need so much space. I’m not saying you should live on a boat (although I know some people who happily do so), but if you can be comfortable in a smaller home, it will not only be less expensive, but easier to maintain, and greatly simplify your life.
Consider a smaller car. This is a big move, but if you have a large car or SUV, you may not really need something that big. It’s more expensive, uses more gas, harder to maintain, harder to park. Simplify your life with less car. You don’t need to go tiny, especially if you have a family, but try to find as small a car as can fit you or your family comfortably. Maybe not something you’re going to do today, but something to think about over the long term.
Learn what “enough” is. Our materialistic society today is about getting more and more, with no end in sight. Sure, you can get the latest gadget, and more clothes and shoes. More stuff. But when will you have enough? Most people don’t know, and thus they keep buying more. It’s a neverending cycle. Get off the cycle by figuring out how much is enough. And then stop when you get there.
Create a simple weekly dinner menu. If figuring out what’s for dinner is a nightly stressor for you or your family, consider creating a weekly menu. Decide on a week’s worth of simple dinners, set a specific dinner for each night of the week, go grocery shopping for the ingredients. Now you know what’s for dinner each night, and you have all the ingredients necessary. No need for difficult recipes — find ones that can be done in 10-15 minutes (or less).
Eat healthy. It might not be obvious how eating healthy relates to simplicity, but think about the opposite: if you eat fatty, greasy, salty, sugary, fried foods all the time, you are sure to have higher medical needs over the long term. We could be talking years from now, but imagine frequent doctor visits, hospitalization, going to the pharmacist, getting therapy, having surgery, taking insulin shots … you get the idea. Being unhealthy is complicated. Eating healthy simplifies all of that greatly, over the long term. Read about how to simplify your eating habits.
Exercise. This goes along the same lines as eating healthy, as it simplifies your life in the long run, but it goes even further: exercise helps burn off stress and makes you feel better. It’s great. Here’s how to create the exercise habit.
Declutter before organizing. Many people make the mistake of taking a cluttered desk or filing cabinet or closet or drawer, and trying to organize it. Unfortunately, that’s not only hard to do, it keeps things complicated. Simplify the process by getting rid of as much of the junk as possible, and then organizing. If you declutter enough, you won’t need to organize at all.
Have a place for everything. Age-old advice, but it’s the best advice on keeping things organized. After you declutter.
Find inner simplicity. I’m not much of a spiritual person, but I have found that spending a little time with my inner self creates a peaceful simplicity rather than a chaotic confusion. This could be time praying or communing with God, or time spent meditating or journaling or getting to know yourself, or time spent in nature. However you do it, working on your inner self is worth the time.
Learn to decompress from stress. Every life is filled with stress — no matter how much you simplify your life, you’ll still have stress (except in the case of the ultimate simplifier, death). So after you go through stress, find ways to decompress.
Try living without a car. OK, this isn’t something I’ve done, but many others have. It’s something I would do if I didn’t have kids. Walk, bike, or take public transportation. It reduces expenses and gives you time to think. A car is also very complicating, needing not only car payments, but insurance, registration, safety inspections, maintenance, repairs, gas and more.
Find a creative outlet for self-expression. Whether that’s writing, poetry, painting, drawing, creating movies, designing websites, dance, skateboarding, whatever. We have a need for self-expression, and finding a way to do that makes your life much more fulfilling. Allow this to replace much of the busy-work you’re eliminating from your life.
Simplify your goals. Instead of having half a dozen goals or more, simplify it to one goal. Not only will this make you less stressed, it will make you more successful. You’ll be able to focus on that One Goal, and give it all of your energy. That gives you much better chances for success.
Single-task. Multi-tasking is more complicated, more stressful, and generally less productive. Instead, do one task at a time.
Simplify your filing system. Stacking a bunch of papers just doesn’t work. But a filing system doesn’t have to be complicated to be useful. Create a simple system.
Develop equanimity. If every little thing that happens to you sends you into anger or stress, your life might never be simple. Learn to detach yourself, and be more at peace.
Reduce your consumption of advertising. Advertising makes us want things. That’s what it’s designed to do, and it works. Find ways to reduce your exposure of advertising, whether that’s in print, online, broadcast, or elsewhere. You’ll want much less.
Live life more deliberately. Do every task slowly, with ease, paying full attention to what you’re doing. For more, see Peaceful Simplicity: How to Live a Life of Contentment.
Make a Most Important Tasks (MITs) list each day. Set just 3 very important things you want to accomplish each day. Don’t start with a long list of things you probably won’t get done by the end of the day. A simple list of 3 things, ones that would make you feel like you accomplished something.
Create morning and evening routines. A great way to simplify your life is to create routines at the start and end of your day. Read more on morning routines and evening routines.
Create a morning writing ritual. If you enjoy writing, like I do, make it a peaceful, productive ritual. Article here.
Learn to do nothing. Doing nothing can be an art form, and it should be a part of every life. Read the Art of Doing Nothing.
Go for quality, not quantity. Try not to have a ton of stuff in your life … instead, have just a few possessions, but ones that you really love, and that will last for a long time.
Read Simplify Your Life, by Elaine St. James. One of my favorite all-time authors on simplicity.
Fill your day with simple pleasures. Make a list of your favorite simple pleasures, and sprinkle them throughout your day.
Create an easy-to-maintain yard. If you spend too much time on your yard, here are some good tips.
Carry less stuff. Are your pockets bulging. Consider carrying only the essentials.
Simplify your online life. If you have too much going on online, here are a few ways to simplify it all.
Strive to automate your income. This isn’t the easiest task, but it can (and has) been done. I’ve been working towards it myself.
Simplify your budget. Many people skip budgeting (which is very important) because it’s too hard or too complicated.
Simplify your financial life. Article from a financial planning expert here.
Learn to pack light. Who wants to lug a bunch of luggage around on a trip? Here’s an article on using just one carry-on.
Use a minimalist productivity system. The minimal Zen To Done is all you need. Everything else is icing.
Leave space around things in your day. Whether they’re appointments, or things you need to do, don’t stack them back-to-back. Leave a little space between things you need to do, so you will have room for contingencies, and you’ll go through your day much more relaxed.
Live closer to work. This might mean getting a job closer to your home, or moving to a home closer to your work. Either will do much to simplify your life.
- Make your bed when you wake up.
- Set your alarm at least 15 minutes before the kids wake up.
- Don’t let the kids be your wake-up call.
- Hang up/put away clothes when you take them off. Don’t leave them on the floor, or drape them over chairs.
- Empty the trash daily.
- Do a 15 minute clean up every night. If they’re old enough, include the kids.
- Before bed, have the kids walk around the house and pick up/put away anything that belongs to them.
- Don’t let dishes sit in the sink overnight. You’ll be glad in the morning!
- Get in the habit of putting things away when you get home. Don’t just dump everything on the nearest surface.
- Teach the kids to do the same.
- Go through the toy collection and purge, purge, purge (best to do this when the kids are out, or in bed!) Invest in a few solid toys that you know will last.
- Go through your closet and donate anything you haven’t worn in the past year (in 2 weeks, you’ll forget it was ever there).
- When purchasing clothes, buy solid colors that you can mix and match.
- Eliminate white sugar, white bread, white pasta from your pantry.
- Replace table salt with sea salt or Himalayan salt.
- Eliminate trans-fats from your diet.
- Keep plenty of fresh fruit on hand.
- If you like to snack on chips, try munching on nuts instead or make popcorn and sprinkle with a little sea salt.
- Go for a walk.
- Read a good book.
- Start a gratitude journal.
- Go through each room in your house and de-clutter, one room at a time.
- De-clutter one closet at a time.
- De-clutter one drawer at a time.
- Clear surfaces of clutter.
- Get rid of knick-knacks. They’re visually distracting. Instead, decorate tastefully with one or two unique items in each room.
- Find a home for everything (preferably out of sight).
- Get into the habit of putting things away right after you’re done using them.
- Take a good look at the furniture in each room. If there’s too much for the space, move it or get rid of it.
- Each week, allocate 15-30 minutes to go through the mail: Pay the bills and deal with the paperwork. Don’t let it pile up.
- Start a basic filing system.
- Allocate a special spot for school forms and let the kids know where it is.
- Clear your kitchen counter tops. Leave out only one or two small appliances that you use daily. Give everything else a home inside a drawer or cabinet.
- Do you really need the waffle-maker that you pull-out and dust off, once a year?
- If you’re working on the computer take frequent breaks. Stretch. Get a drink of water.
- When you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take 10 deep breaths. It will do you wonders!
- Blast the radio while you tackle the housework. You’ll get more done.
- Read inspirational quotes.
- Limit checking your e-mail to once or twice a day.
- Watch one less show on TV.
- Exercise daily. You can start with a 15 minute walk around the block.
- Don’t obsess over little things. Let it go. Breathe.
- When you’re schedule is crazy and you have a million things to do, don’t get mad when your kid chooses that moment to have a melt-down. Stop what you’re doing. Cuddle up for 10 minutes and read a story, or sing some nursery rhymes. The distraction will do you both good!
- Take a break.
- Call your best-friend.
- Touch base with your spouse during work days (call, e-mail or text).
- Start a new family tradition.
- Let the kids make a mess.
- Create a weekly menu plan.
- Teach your kids to do their own laundry.
- Delegate house chores. Kids as young as five can handle simple chores like sorting socks.
- Turn your cell phone off in the car.
- Turn your cell phone off when you are out with friends and family (if you have small kids at home, put your phone on vibrate).
- Make eye contact and pay attention when someone is talking to you.
- Leave your credit card at home.
- Pay your credit card off every month.
- If you don’t have the money, don’t buy it. Save up for it.
- Teach older kids to pitch in. They can load/unload the dishwasher, take out the garbage, help younger siblings with homework, etc.
- Do you really need 2 different blenders in the kitchen? (I had 3, before I de-cluttered)
- Use bins for toys and teach your kids to pack up when they’re done playing.
- Place an empty basket/bin (something nice looking) beside the stairs. Every time you come across something that doesn’t belong downstairs (toys, sweaters, books, etc), dump it in the basket. Make a habit of emptying this basket before heading up for bed. The kids should put away anything they find of theirs in it before they go to bed.
- Eliminate sugary cereals for breakfast and replace with healthier ones. We enjoy Kashi cereals.
- Make a double batch of pancakes or crepes and freeze them between wax paper. They’re a great way to spice up breakfast when you’re pressed for time in the mornings.
- Make sure school bags are packed and ready the night before.
- Prep lunches and snacks the night before.
- If mornings are a mad rush, wake up 15 minutes earlier.
- Get enough sleep (7-8 hours).
- Enforce bed-times for kids, even older kids (my 13 yr old’s bed-time is 9:30pm).
- Set times for snack (e.g. after-school). Say no to snacks at other times, especially before meals.
- Don’t schedule after-school activities everyday. Kids need time to relax and just be.
- Let your kids be bored. It’s okay to be bored.
- Don’t allow computers or TV’s in the bedrooms (including yours)!
- Limit screen time for kids (TV, computer, electronic games, etc).
- Go screen free for a week. Or longer.
- Go on a date with your spouse (aim for once a week).
- Get rid of or donate 50 household items (dishes, gadgets, tools, blankets, small appliances).
- Get rid of or donate 100 personal items (clothing, books, shoes, trinkets, etc).
- Cut down your beauty products by half.
- Be present. Stop and Pause. Look around you. Take note of all the wonderful things that surround you: Nature, people, your wonderful home.
- Spend 10 minutes a day, doing nothing.